There have been a few tweets going around about memorable Tangos, mostly from women. One lady tweeted that it seems as if only the women remember memorable Tangos. I replied, tongue in cheek, that if a woman remembers a good Tango, it is because she may have had many bad or indifferent ones.
There are many reasons why a moment would be memorable, such as it being the first time you did something, like a first kiss, or the first time you travelled on a plane. Anything you did something special or unusual for the first time will usually be memorable.
I will never forget the first time I danced with my first Tango teacher. I was nervous, but he danced gently with me and it made me feel great.
I remember going to my first milonga and not being able to dance because I only knew how to dance large. (I changed teachers after that!)
I remember going to Corrientes (at Tavistock Place) for the first time and only having two dances during the whole evening. Not two tandas, just two dances! (I was still a beginner)
I remember going to Corrientes four weeks later and dancing almost the whole evening!
I remember the first time I had ‘that Tango feeling’. Aah! (And the other times after that I can count on one hand)
I have a lot of Tango firsts that are memorable. There are other things that can make a Tango memorable, such as when I just move to the music and not just pay too much attention to what my leader was asking me to do. When two people are in sync with each other and the music, that can make it memorable.
Not all memorable moments are good however. Things can be memorable because they are unpleasant. I will never forget the moment when someone told me I had no style (I had only been dancing 6 months!). Or the men that think it is ok to cop a feel on the dance floor, or the ones that have BO and BB! That list goes on.
These days my Tangos are memorable because I am not dancing so much since I have moved out of London.
Women are usually good at expressing themselves. It is how we solve problems and form solidarity. Even if we complain, we feel a lot better afterwards. Better out than in. This probably explains why there are mostly women tweeting about memorable Tangos, good and bad, but mainly good ones. One can almost hear the yearning when reading about their wonderful Tango. It makes me wonder about the ones danced in-between the memorable ones.
I’m sure there are men that have memorable Tangos too. They must have their fair share of good and bad experiences that make a Tango memorable, not dissimilar to the ones that women experience. They are just not talking about it (certainly not writing about it). Fair enough.
So, what makes a Tango memorable for you?