Ask Arlene…There’s a hack teaching in my town!!

Dear Arlene,

I have to travel a long distance to dance Argentine Tango.  Although it is inconvenient, the travelling was worth it as I had made some nice friends and I got some lovely dances over the years.

So when I heard that there was someone teaching and setting up a Milonga in my area, I was very excited and couldn’t wait to go and try it out.  I arrived at the back end of the Beginner’s class, quietly put on my shoes and observed.

Arlene!!! You wouldn’t believe what this guy was doing!  At first I didn’t understand what the exercise was as most people looked confused.  I worked out that they were trying to do some version of the basic 8 that gets taught!  My God!  These people weren’t even being taught how to do a basic walking step!  The leaders were taking backwards steps and doing some sort of rocking motion!  When the teacher was demonstrating what he wanted them to do, he had more bounce in his step than Tigger!  Then, this is the worst bit; he touched a couple of women on their coccyx (tailbone) to demonstrate how the woman should move into him (his pelvis) while he was leaning backwards!  What????!!!!!  Ew!!!!!  That creeped me out so badly and made me feel sick.

I recognised a couple of people from Modern Jive and they were all looking really hopeful and enthusiastic.  They haven’t got a clue!  I felt so bad that I had to leave.  Sticking around for the Intermediate or Advanced class would have been a complete waste of time as there isn’t any Tango where I live.  If this is what was being taught in the Beginner’s class, I shudder to think what he would be teaching in the other classes!

So, what do I do now?


Disappointed Beyond Belief

Dear Disappointed,

I must say that I felt a bit queasy about what you described.  It does irk me when I hear of people teaching Argentine Tango that have no business doing so or think that after spending a bit of time in Buenos Aires makes them qualified.  People get so desperate to learn this wonderful dance that they will go to the first person in their area teaching.  I would know because my first teacher was someone who taught conveniently close to me when I lived in London.  Although he may be infamous, my first teacher actually does know how to dance Argentine Tango very well.  He just prefers to go a bit willy-nilly and teach show steps.  His warm –up exercises teach style and balance in the walk and his enthusiasm for what he does inspired me to broaden my horizons and take lessons from others.  That is when I found out I couldn’t really dance after all and had to start all over again.  🙂  Live and learn!

I am afraid that you may have to continue travelling for your dances like I do until someone who actually knows how to teach the basics eventually gets to your area, and leave this guy to his own devices.  I don’t expect he will last in your area too long.  Have you ever considered starting your own Milonga with someone who can teach the basics?

Any comments from my readers are welcome.

Ask Arlene…About a Dress for a Showcase

Hi Arlene,,
I am going to have a showcase this coming july and very much thankful i found your website. I will be performing an Argentine tango,, I have an excellent teacher, very patient in teaching the tecnuiqes. I learned some basic tango,, but this time will learn the argentine tango, i hope i do well in this showcase.
I am very very pettite and would like to get some advise on what dress to wear,, should it be one piece or two piece?
thank you.

Dear Evelyn,

Thank you for writing in and visiting my blog.  To be totally honest, I haven’t got a clue as to what would be appropriate.  I would assume that you would want something comfortable, that you would feel great in, nothing too slutty, and something that could be easily washed.  It depends on what you are going to be doing and how tricky your moves are going to be.

Any suggestions from the sidelines?

Good luck,


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